Struggling with academic pressure and low mood in college | Student Forum

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I'm a second-year student at a state college and I'm really finding it hard to keep up. My CGPA dropped after the first semester, my parents keep asking me to study harder, and honestly I feel depressed most days. I skip classes sometimes and just stay in my room. I don't know if I should see a counsellor or if this is just normal college stress. Has anyone here dealt with this and come out okay?

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SouvikChatterjeeWes5mo ago

What you're describing — low mood, isolating, academic slump — is worth taking seriously, not dismissing as 'normal stress.' I'd recommend: (1) See a counsellor ASAP, even for an initial chat. (2) Tell your parents you're struggling emotionally, not just academically. (3) Small routine changes: regular sleep, one outdoor activity daily, eating properly. (4) Consider whether you need medication or therapy — there's no shame, and it helps many students. One semester does not define your college or career.

FatimaSheikhPan5mo ago

Hey, I went through something very similar in my second year. What helped me most was talking to my hostel warden and then actually visiting the college counselling centre — yes it felt awkward at first, but the counsellor helped me separate real problems from the anxiety in my head. Also, I made a simple routine: morning walk, fixed study hours (not 12 hours, just 5–6 focused ones), and one hobby I actually enjoyed. Your CGPA is not your worth, and one bad semester doesn't define your future.

SnehaMalhotraDel5mo ago

I relate to everything you said. I found that even just telling my senior from the same hostel made things feel less lonely. She didn't solve my problems, but she listened and told me her own second-year breakdown story. Sometimes we just need to know we're not broken. Have you told anyone yet — a friend, a senior, anyone?

JiyaShahGuj5mo ago

Thanks everyone. I think I'm going to try calling the college counselling number tomorrow. I was scared it meant I was 'crazy' but reading this, it sounds like it's just normal college stuff that got bigger because I didn't talk about it. I'll also tell my parents I'm struggling — not just grades, the whole thing. Appreciate all of you.

VidyaGowdaKar5mo ago

Thanks for posting this, honestly. I thought I was alone. Did you try talking to your parents about the mood thing, or just the grades?

SouravPatnaikOdi5mo ago

As a parent, I want you to know: we worry about grades, yes, but if I found out my child was depressed and didn't tell me, I'd be heartbroken. Please tell your parents. If they react badly initially, give them time — they'll come around. A good parent would rather have a happy child with lower grades than a miserable one pretending everything is fine. Don't carry this alone.

NavjotGillPun5mo ago

I graduated five years ago from a similar background and I can tell you: those low-mood months in college were real, but they passed. What I wish I'd known: talk to your parents honestly about how you're feeling, not just grades. Many parents worry because they don't understand college pressure. Also, if your college has a counsellor, they are usually free and confidential. Don't wait for it to get worse.

AdityaGuptaDel5mo ago

As a faculty member, I want to say: many bright students go through this exact phase. The academic pressure is real, but it's temporary. Please reach out to your department's mentor or visit the counselling service on campus — most colleges have them now. And if exams are coming up, talk to your professor about what's happening; many will work with you. Your mental health comes first; grades will follow.

GokulVargheseKer5mo ago

One practical thing that helped me: I stopped studying in my room (too isolating) and started going to the library or a friend's place for study sessions. Physical environment change + presence of others (even in silence) made a real difference to my mood. Also, eating mess meals with someone beats alone. Small changes, but they add up.

RupsaBanerjeeWes5mo ago

I'm in a similar boat right now. One thing that changed for me: I stopped comparing my CGPA to my friends'. Everyone's pace is different. Also joined a small study group with two friends — having accountability helped, and we talk about our struggles too, not just academics. Have you thought about finding even one person to confide in?

AbhijitGogoiAss5mo ago

Real talk: I saw a counsellor in my hostel, and my mom found out and cried thinking something was 'wrong' with me. But after I explained it was just stress management, she was supportive. Your parents might surprise you. Also, many colleges have a wellness cell or student mental health program now — ask your warden or check the college website.